Nowadays, the traditional measure of success — owning an apartment and/or a car — is out of date. An increasing number of young people around the world don’t want to buy them.
Research shows that the so-called millennial generation, who are now 30-35 years old, rarely buy houses and even more rarely — cars. In fact, they don’t buy super expensive things at all. In the USA, people under the age of 35 are called ’the generation of renters.’
Why does this happen?
Some sociologists say the current generation of young people differs from their parents’ generation. They have other values.
The youth today has reconsidered the concept of success, which means:
Successful people don’t buy property — they rent.
If you want to be considered successful, invest in experiences: travel, do extreme sports, build startups.
The point is that people now don’t want prosperity and stability — all they want is flexible schedules and financial and geographical independence.
People have started to have no interest in material things
Why own a car if you can take a cab? It’s almost a personal car with a driver. And it’s not more expensive than having your own car. Why buy a house in a beautiful place and go there for vacation, if you can find a place to stay through Airbnb in any corner of the planet? You don’t have to overpay for rent or buy a property in a country you love. The same thing with real estate in your hometown:
You don’t know how long you’ll stay where you live.
You can take on a mortgage for 40 years, or you can accept the fact that you’ll spend your whole life in a rented place.
You’ll probably change your job in the next few years. If you rent, nothing prevents you from moving closer to the office.
According to Forbes, modern young people change jobs every three years on average.
The concept of ownership is no longer relevant
James Hamblin, The Atlantic’s columnist, explains the phenomenon as follows: ’Over the past decade, psychologists carried out a great amount of research proving that, in terms of happiness and a sense of well-being, spending money on new experiences is much more profitable than buying new things. It brings more joy.’
Experiences help us make friends
Social interaction between people is crucial to whether they feel happy or not. Talking to others and having a lot of friends makes you a happier person. But would people rather hear about how you spent a year in a wild country or about how many apartments you’ve already bought?
Remember that even a bad experience can become a good story. Material things cannot.
Buying things makes us worry
There’s one more thing. The things we own, especially if they’re very expensive, make us worry about their condition. If you buy a car, you’ll flinch every time someone’s alarm sounds outside. If you buy a house and fill it with expensive items, you’ll be afraid of being robbed. Not to mention the fact that a car can be scratched or break down, and a super expensive TV might break after a year of usage. But no one can ever take away the experiences you have.
Every purchase will go down in price over time
Our parents weren’t able to travel as often as we do. There wasn’t a possibility to have so much fun. They didn’t have so many opportunities to start a new business. Therefore, they invested in houses and cars, and we don’t want to do that. After all, every purchase, if it’s not a house or an apartment, will depreciate over time. And if we think about how quickly real estate depreciates during a crisis, then everything becomes even more obvious.
Experience is the only thing that matters: it won’t go down in price, and no one can steal it.
TAKE HOME MESSAGE – The Author of the above article is from the USA and has explained a growing trait in the USA. But India is not far behind. More and more of my friends, family, and people I know who live in metros like Mumbai, Pune, Delhi, and Bangalore are shifting to the above mindset.
The change is happening really fast.
And experience has become the new age motivator.
Very soon youth in developing cities will understand the power of the above and adapt it.
It’s an evolutionary change, where we are moving away from Materialistic value to Higher Emotional Value to Life!
If we consider Maslow’s Pyramid, this is a further step towards greater happiness.
If we consider what Krishna Said in the Bhagwat Gita- Detachment is essential to experience Bliss!
If you still depend on Materialistic approach to happiness. Then this is a great time in the social evolution of society to experience the other side, without being considered a Rebel or having to break too many comfort zones!
CREDITS: This beautiful post curated and sourced from the web.
Basic rules of In-Laws Management!
In India, a person doesn’t just marry another person; he or she marries her or his family. However, most of the dating couples never care to spend some time on thinking about their partner’s family even though the elders emphasize explicitly, “IN-LAWS DO MATTER”
The concern is not at all an irrational one. Even most of the surveys show that in-law relations are a key determinant of marital happiness.
Here are some of the basic rules to maintain a healthy and happy married life with your spouse.
Rule # 1: Loyalty is to your spouse
Once a person is married and starts his/her own family, the person’s priority changes and so the loyalty as well. The elders are unequivocal; so it is the duty of a person to support his or her spouse and to manage their own family. The basic rule of marriage is that the partners must present a cohesive front to both families, making it clear from the beginning that your spouse comes first. Even in the heat of a moment, an individual needs to stand by his/her spouse and not by respective families. All most all survey says, “In a conflict between spouse and family, always support your spouse.”
Rule # 2: Fix issues in marriage within the marriage.
One of the major mistakes that couples often do is sharing their relationship issues with their respective families. Of course, when people go through a rough patch, they tend to share their feelings with their close people. However, looking for a solution outside of the marriage is not a good idea. Therefore, the best way to find the right solution is by talking to your partner and not by turning away from your partner.
Always keep this in mind that venting to parents every time you’re angry or hurt will build a case against your partner. The conflict between a couple may get resolved after some time, but your close family never forgets the pain your spouse caused to you which may hold bitterness for your partner.
Rule # 3: Apposite boundaries are necessary.
There is a great saying that ‘Good fences make good neighbors.’ From a metaphoric point of view, consider your in-laws as your neighbors, and you need to create fences. Set boundaries and control their interferences in your married life. You are the only person to decide when they can come in and out of your life appropriately. You need to remember that you have got a finite amount of physical as well as emotional energy and when your in-laws are draining you then you need to change the limitations. However, reassure them that you are not closing them out.
Rule # 4: Talking about it, is essential
Privacy is one of the major demands of a marital relationship. If your in-laws are ramming into your married life and invading your privacy, perchance the reason behind this is you and your partner haven’t set limits or enunciated them. Talking to your parents is not as fragile as you think, so this is your job to set boundaries and talk to them about this.
Rule # 5: Deal with “the other woman” dynamic.
The first ‘other woman’ in any married man’s life is considered as his mother. In most of the couples it is quite common that partners often say, “Well, my mom does it this way…”; and of course, it is healthy, when you share your feelings or emotions related to ‘mother-son’ bond. However, husbands must not forget that the person with whom you are living in, is your partner for a lifetime. Your partner can not be the reflection of your mother because she is your spouse. Respect that and appreciate and accept her way of doing things as well. On the other hand, the wives must need to tell and make their partners realize that time has come where you come first not anything or anyone else.
Rule # 6: Know your role and do your best
If your partner has a problem with his or her mother-in-law, it’s your turn to step in. The person with the prime relationship that is the son or daughter required to act as the peacemaker. If a husband has some issues with his mother-in-law, then the wife’s job is to help him to resolve the problem. Similarly, if a wife is having problems with her in-laws, it’s the husband who supports her resolve it.
Rule # 7: Try not to criticize your spouse.
When you are with your parents, don’t forget that your partner is new to your family and he or she might take time to understand the emotion or bonding that you share with your parents. There may be parent/child dynamics that your spouse can’t see. So, this is the crucial time for him or her, where he or she may feel left out in the family. So, apart from staying with him or her, the first thing you need to do is try not to be overly critical and never criticize or make fun of your spouse in front of your family. Criticizing leads to more complications to understand your partner’s feelings and emotions.
Rule # 8: Don’t be a fighter always.
Most people tend to prove their point at the wrong time. It does not always need to be right during an argument, even when your in-laws are wrong from your perspective. The best way to face a fight or an argument is to stay calm. Research says the way you react to a situation adds fuel to the fight or the argument, which consequently overshadow your position. You need to keep this in mind that in a married life ‘being happy matters a lot than being right’.
Rule # 9: Don’t involve kids.
Kids must not be used as pawns or weapons of war. Protect your children from being manipulated or emotionally spoiled by being in the mid of a war zone. Grandparents need to understand or else it is your responsibility to make them realize that even though their role is important in a child’s life, their involvement is a privilege, not a right. Also, they need to earn that privilege by keeping the kid’s interests above their own. Parents should make all efforts to maintain a healthy and loving relationship between a grandparent and grandchild.
In conclusion, In-laws management is not like staying away from parents. Of course, you can love your parents and share a rich, active and healthy relationship with them but this should be and must be without involving them in your marriage.
LIFE AFTER 60
Life can begin at 60, it is all in your hands! Many people feel unhappy, health-wise and security-wise, after 60 years of age, owing to the diminishing importance given to them and their opinions. But, it need not be so, if only we understand the basic principles of life and follow them scrupulously. Here are ten mantras to age gracefully and make life after retirement pleasant.
1. Never say ‘I am aged’ :
There are three ages, chronological, biological, and psychological. The first is calculated based on our date of birth; the second is determined by the health conditions; the third is how old we feel we are. While we don’t have control over the first, we can take care of our health with a good diet, exercise, and a cheerful attitude. A positive attitude and optimistic thinking can reverse the third age.
2. Health is wealth:
If you really love your kith and kin, taking care of your health should be your priority. Thus, you will not be a burden to them. Have an annual health check-up and take the prescribed medicines regularly. Do take health insurance coverage.
3. Money is important:
Money is essential for meeting the basic necessities of life, keeping good health and earning family respect and security. Don’t spend beyond your means even for your children. You have lived for them all through and it is time you enjoyed a harmonious life with your spouse. If your children are grateful and they take care of you, you are blessed. But, never take it for granted.
4. Relaxation and recreation:
The most relaxing and recreating forces are a healthy religious attitude, good sleep, music, and laughter. Have faith in God, learn to sleep well, love good music and see the funny side of life.
5. Time is precious:
It is almost like holding a horses’ reins. When they are in your hands, you can control them. Imagine that every day you are born again. Yesterday is a canceled cheque. Tomorrow is a promissory note. Today is ready cash – use it profitably. Live this moment; live it fully, now, in the present time.
6. Change is the only permanent thing: We should accept change – it is inevitable. The only way to make sense out of change is to join in the dance. Change has brought about many pleasant things. We should be happy that our children are blessed.
7. Enlightened selfishness:
All of us are basically selfish. Whatever we do, we expect something in return. We should definitely be grateful to those who stood by us. But, our focus should be on the internal satisfaction and the happiness we derive by doing good for others, without expecting anything in return. Perform a random act of kindness daily.
8. Forget and forgive:
Don’t be bothered too much about others’ mistakes. We are not spiritual enough to show our other cheek when we are slapped in one. But for the sake of our own health and happiness, let us forgive and forget them. Otherwise, we will be only increasing our blood pressure.
9. Everything has a purpose:
Take life as it comes. Accept yourself as you are and also accept others for what they are. Everybody is unique and is right in his own way.
10. Overcome the fear of death:
We all know that one day we have to leave this world. Still, we are afraid of death. We think that our spouse and children will be unable to withstand our loss. But the truth is no one is going to die for you; they may be depressed for some time. Time heals everything and they will go on.
Share this article with all ’60s or going to be 60 and 60+ you may know 🙏😊
This beautiful article by Dr. Aloysius LOH: LIFE AFTER 60
5 Relationship lessons I learned from my parents
“No matter how far we come, our parents are always in us.” ― Brad Meltzer
My parents have been great parents to me. They have worked hard and taught me so many things as I grew up. They provide a stable foundation for my life and future. Sometimes I totally ignored, there are a packs of love and relationship lessons but today I highly appreciated them.
Over the years, listening to mom dad stories became relatable, as I start indulging into the confusing yet awesome world of dating.
At last, there’s love story led me to a deep understanding of my own relationships, ideals and expectations.
Twenty-Five years since winking at each other my parents still act like high school love birds. They talk for hours on end, go on movie dates, laugh together.
Here now I’m going to share Maa and Papa’s blueprint for romance with you :
- Be a good friend to find a good friend. If you can look at your love as a friend, then you have much better chances of sticking it out long-term. And my parents modeled what it means to be a good friend to others.
- little things that make all the difference: It always motivating to have a supportive partner, isn’t it? The little thing which they do for each other makes the things different. Since from my childhood, I’ve seen mom and dad doing the same.
- True love exist. When our parents have been together since they were 16 and are still happy nearly 40 years later, it makes you realize that love exist.
- Care about the right things.Relationships not about 50-50 things, my parents have taught me that it should be 100-100 participation So care about the things which build each other.
- Have a life of your own.Its true to share interest with your partner or so. But you also have to insure that you have a life your too.There is no need to control your happiness and are more content. Being happy in your own builds confidence and an energy that makes you more attractive to people.
Durex launches Fundawear for long distance couples
Condom company Durex has now come out with innovative wearables(undergarments) which are connected to smart phone apps.
Now couples can be in close intimacy even when they are at different locations. Earlier too a few sex toy companies had tried to do something similar but nothing even close to this.
Durex Fundawear allows couples to touch over the internet. Previuosly long distance couples could only communiate visually or over voice but with this technology they can touch, tease and tantalize. Durex is currently soliciting couples who want to be a further part of this experiment called ‘Durexperiment’.
This experiment is being currently conducted in Australia where durex is a distant second. Condom being such a commodity where a potential buyer makes a decision in a few seconds, it was required for the brand to come out with something innovative to grab the attention of the youth. When a person touches his or her touch screen device – a wireless signal is sent through real time servers to his/her partners smart phone. A signal is then transmitted to the actuators woven into the partner’s underwear transferring the touch sensation. Havas Worldwide Sydney has devised this ‘Durexperiment’ to reposition Durex as an innovative brand in Australia.
According to Fundawear Facebook Page, willing couples can still sign in and be a part of this ‘Durexperiment’ testing phase.
How to Prevent Wastage of Time?
Many a times, we plan to complete a task but at the end of the day, we are again left with our incomplete tasks, work pressure, frustration and dissatisfaction. Thus, we tend to regret to have wasted a complete day.
Okay, if you are in the same boat regretting to have wasted your day; herein, we have few tips to help you save your time and earn productive results at the end of the day.
- Follow a schedule for the day. In the morning, you can jot down the important tasks of your day and try sticking to them. You should diligently aim at completing your work.
- Avoid distractions. All you have to do is, set up your priorities and you must try to complete the task at higher priority level first.
- You should avoid the distractive sensory stimulations. Yes, while working, you should concentrate at your work without the distraction from your cellphone. You can switch off your internet and put your phone at the silent mode.
- You should avoid doing multi-tasking. Yes, it is better to complete a task efficiently rather than working on many tasks at a same time. Multi-tasking leads to decrease in efficiency and quality of the work thus, increasing the time.
- When doing a work for the first time, try to do it impeccably. Well! If you don’t work perfectly for the first time, you need to repeat it and it is again a time-consuming dint.
- Take a sheet of paper and make 24 columns in it. Mark each column as 1:00, 2:00, 3:00 and so on till 24:00 as per the 24-hour clock. Cross your sleeping hours. Say if you sleep from 8:00pm to 6:00 am; cross from 20:00 to 24:00 and 1:00 to 6:00. Now for every hour, take out 5 minutes and list down the work done. Well! Now depending on your priorities; you can decide how much you wasted and improve later on.
- Give yourself a break of 5 minutes after an hour of continuous working. You can take deep breaths in order to rejuvenate your energy and then get back to your work afresh.
- Began to trust people especially when working as a team. In order to save your time, you must divide the tasks among your team members and complete your share of work. This way not only your time is saved but your quality of work also improves.
- Before starting your day, having the list of tasks to be completed is a must. However, it is more important to have well-defined objectives and clear goals for your day and your life to save your time in long run.
- Stop listening to your mind when it attracts you towards distractions. Try to set up small goals and stay determined to complete them. Don’t deviate from your scheduled routine.
Hope this helps to save your time and yield effective, productive results.
Stay tuned for such kind of articles.
How to Enhance Your Concentration?
While studying or while working, many of us have a problem to concentrate. Yes, we are not able to think at one place, about one thing at a time. Due to the lack of concentration we are not able to complete the assigned task at a time. Even if the work gets completed, we are not satisfied with our work as we feel that we have not performed up to the mark. Similarly, many a times we are not able to achieve good grades and we acknowledge our problem which is the lack of concentration.
Well! Many of us are facing this problem, right.
Today, we bring to you few tips in order to improve our concentration abilities. In order to enhance your concentration level,
- Avoid Multitasking
Well! In order to stay concentrated, you must not indulge yourself into multi-tasking. If you find that you mind is not able to concentrate at a particular point about a particular thing and you are not able to complete your work on time; you must say a big no to multi-tasking. It is often seen that if we work over one thing at a time, we tend to concentrate more and give efficient results.
- Embrace Peaceful Ambience
Avoid constant sensory inputs from television, radio, noisy environment and other sources. If you to concentrate on your thoughts and work; you must sit amidst peace. You can embrace solitude in order to indulge into ocean of your thoughts. Well! Constant sensory inputs augment the stimulation into mind and our brain tends to think over lot many aspects and hence, we are not able to concentrate.
- Encompass Meditation In Your Life
Yes, incorporate meditation in your daily routine of life. It will not only help you stay calm but will also help you to increase your concentration power. Performing the Gyan Mudra in Padamasana (Lotus Pose) by joining the tip of your thumb and fore-finger in the morning or performing Yoga will help you meditate and thus, increase your concentration level. While meditating, you must lay emphasis upon observing your breath in order to increase your concentration according to a scientific study.
- The Five More Rule
Well! If you are working for a long time and you are no longer to concentrate; this rule will be of utmost help for you. Instruct your mind to give five more minutes to the incomplete task and then, you would take a rest. Due to the immediate instruction given by you, your mind starts to work efficiently once again. Many a times, such a concentration is established due to the triggered impulse of five minutes that you can work constantly for more than an hour!
Hope, this article brings a ray of hope and helps you increase your concentration skills. Give these tips a try and I am sure that you won’t suffer from lack of concentration anymore.
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Online shopping or Offline shopping?
Shopping freak, right? But what will you prefer more for shopping? An online one or an offline one? Online shopping has become much popular and the preferred one for anyone to shop for any of the products. But, since the existence of mankind, Offline shopping is still managing to maintain its space and presence in this highly competitive market.
All the retailers dealing with the online shopping are here to provide some of the benefits and the facilities that offline retail stores can’t provide but this is not at all done with the intention of closing or discouraging the offline market. But, both are just commendable in their own ways and the customers are making use of these stores to accomplish their different shopping needs and preferences.
Let us make you have a look at all the pros and cons of Online and Offline shopping that makes them too different or better than each other:
- Convenient shopping- Keeping convenience in mind, this is the point that you will also agree with “Online shopping is more convenient than the Offline shopping.” On deciding the product that you have to buy, you can make the whole payment online or choose the Cash on Delivery option and get the product right at your doorstep. You don’t need to take out your car and travel all the way to the offline stores to buy these products.
- Varied kinds of products- If we take a look at the “Variety of goods for the customers”, we can say that Online shopping is better this way. As compared to the offline shopping the Online retail stores provide its customers with the better variety in case of brands, colors, sizes, quality, and designs. Having no problem related to the accommodation physical space, the Online retail stores can provide you millions of products at a single place.
- Try before buy- Here Offline Shopping comes into play because it has this benefit that an Online store lacks behind. In an offline store, you can touch, feel and even try the product before buying it. If it doesn’t match your preference you can skip the idea of buying it. But, this is totally opposite in the case of Online shopping as you cannot try anything before buying. You just have to believe on what the image of the product tells you.
- Hand to hand buying- In online shopping, once you place the order it will take approximately 2-3 days to get your product. Whereas, offline shopping facilitates the hand-to-hand buying system. Once you do the payment you will get the product at the same moment there itself. So, no need to wait for the delivery of your product during Offline shopping. This is really helpful in case of buying some products during an emergency.
So, now the decision is yours on how to shop. Online and Offline shopping are both amazing in their own ways, you just need to look at your preferences and then choose your way of shopping accordingly. Happy Shopping!
The Worthy Habit of Successful People
In today’s era of globalization, everyone is running in a rat race to achieve power, status, financial stability and luxuries of life. However, we tend to forget the phenomenon of self-realization. It is observed that there is a high level of competition amongst the human beings wherein everyone wants to achieve the supreme power. Amidst the process of running in a rat race to achieve materialistic goals, we tend to become a self-programmed robot that tends to compete with everyone coming in the way.
Every one of us has seen people who are jealous because their neighbors bought a new car or their relative’s son has secured first position in his class. This is because of the sense of competition in the people. The fact is quite evident that these people tend to compete with their acquaintances. They will strive hard to purchase a new car soon and force their child to follow the footsteps of their relative’s son. However, in the process they will forget that in order to achieve stability in life, the person should introspect oneself in order to know the real potential and then, work accordingly to fulfill the set goals.
The simple mantra in order to succeed in one’s life is to strive hard for the betterment of one’s future which can be easily done by self-competition. Basically, we should compete with ourselves in order to improve ourselves. Such a competition is always healthy and the people pursuing such kind of mindset are successful than others because with tremendous dedication and perseverance, they work efficiently to improve themselves both at professional and personal front thus, emerging as a symbol of inspiration at both the ends. They tend to introspect themselves genuinely in order to find out their mistakes, their weaknesses and their strengths. They work over their strengths to develop them and they try to improve upon their weaknesses. They tend to mend their mistakes. As they work upon improving their personality on the regular basis, they tend to reach the zenith of success.
To conclude, instead of running in the rat race and being jealous upon the success of others, one should try to introspect oneself. One should aim at improving upon the weaknesses, working over strengths and mending the mistakes. It is better to aim everyday that we would emerge into a better human being as compared to the previous day. This mindset towards life will help us stand-out amongst everyone thus, evolving ourselves into a better person.
10 THINGS ABOUT FATHER- DAUGHTER RELATIONSHIP
1. Your dad is always your superhero no matter how much both of you fight.
2. You can always be wierd in front of him as he is the only one who understands you very well.
3. No matter how big the problem is,he is always there to save you.
4. Your dad and you are always in the same team just to leave mom alone and win the arguement.
5. He always encourages you, whenever you feel low.
6. No matter how bad you dress up, you will always be his princess.
7. He is the first love of your life. The perfect match for you.
8. He never shows but he is very possessive for you and loves you alot than you do!
9. He is your bachpan vala “tik tik ghoda forever”
10. He is the only one who never judges you, stops you and questions you for every small thing. Because he LOVES YOU ALOT.
THINGS YOU WILL REALIZE IF YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP
Suddenly your boyfriend becomes your “official baby”, as if KUMBH K MELE MAI BICHAD GYA THA VO!
Your morning starts with wishing your boyfriend/girlfriend because you are the only official morning clock for them.
Suddenly your facebook status updates from single to in a relationship.
You have to update your boyfriend/girlfriend with each and every details and things happening around you.
The dangerous thing about being in a relationship is you can never hang out with your friends without your partner’s permission.
One of the funniest things you will realize that you suddenly become a “TOTLA” “MELE BACHE NE KHANA KHAYA”, “MELA BACHA KAISA HAI” and so on.
All your social media networking sites are full of pictures with your partners.
If you are busy talking on phone with someone else to “BETA TUMHARI TO LAG GAYI”.
Most common, in fact, comical thing is that the gender of your partner changes in front of your parents i.e Rohan becomes Riya and the cycle goes on.
But one fine day your relationship takes a new turn and comes on “PYAAR KA PUNCHNAMA MODE”.
You start realizing — mai to “BAN GAYA KUTTA”
And then when you have no option left you become a “GYAN GURU” k ye sab to moh maya hai bhai!
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