Recently, I attended a seminar wherein, a question came up. A fellow asked, “Who can be the best role model of a child?” The organizers were pretty amazed and therefore, they turned towards the audience for the answer.
When everyone was expressing their views, there came up an amazing answer by a senior psychologist sitting amongst us. According to him, the parents could be the real role models only and only if they share such a bond with their child that their child shares each and everything with them.
Almost everyone agreed with this viewpoint.
Well! Herein, I wish to discuss about the art of parenting. No doubts, parents are the teachers of a child as they help the child to develop the values essential for life. Parents are the only ones who help their children survive in the world by providing moral values, physical and emotional support, good education, good health, monetary benefits and other necessities as well as luxuries. All these acts are a symbol of affection and hence, parents are selfless. However, when the children come across their teenage, it is very unfortunate to note that children tend to avoid their parents as the youngsters believe that their parents are after their lives spying upon them. As a result, the teenagers lose their confidence and can be driven towards drugs and other hazardous situations.
I am aware that parents are not after the lives of their children and they can never think wrong about them. However, scientifically adolescence is an age wherein lot many hormonal changes occur and as a result, it is even difficult for human body to maintain a balance.
Therefore, I herein, wish to share some parenting tips which would help the parents to develop such a bond with their children that children can share each and everything with them:-
- Firstly, the parents should try abridging the so-called generation gap. The generation gap is not so evident because even the parents have gone through the same phase and their kids will also face the phase of adults in the coming years. This can be done by talking to the kids and discussing various aspects of life. The different phases of life should be discussed with the kids and kids should be counseled about the pros and cons of their activities in a constructive way. For instance, when the child demands the cellphone and parents are willing to give their kid one, the parents must tell about the use, misuse and abuse of the same but not in a preaching style rather as a interactive session in the convenient leisure time.
- Since, the very beginning the parents should give their quality-time to their kids. Efforts could be made by asking about their day at school, their bonding with friends, and so on. Apart from his, parents can lay with their kids and spend the leisure time together. This not only builds up the bond between a parent and kid but also helps to enhance understand the behavior of their child. Thus, the change of the behavior can easily be noted. For instance, the children are driven towards the dangerous Blue Whale Challenge these days which is marked with a strange behavior accompanied by solitude and depression.
- Lastly, the parents should aim at developing moral values in their child so that their kid could differentiate between good and bad. Apart from this, instead of constantly punishing or demoralizing their kid in order to make him/her perform up to relevant standards, the parents should try to find out the innate talent of their child and help the kid to develop the same. In the case, the child is on the wrong path, initially the parents should try explaining the kid his/her mistake and counsel about the disadvantages and consequences of their activity. However, in the case, things do not get sorted; the parents should arrive upon the decision of stern treatment at the end. However, in most of the cases, kids tend to understand their parents’ views in the case; the views are explained in a calmed situation.
I feel it is very difficult to tackle the teenagers because of their developing mindset and their hormonal changes due to which they tend to believe that they are correct at all times however, a calm attitude from the side of adults would help them overcome the most difficult phase of their lives. Yes, adolescence is the most difficult phase of life because the children are prone to different kinds of challenges of life which can either make or mar their future.
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