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Recently, I attended a seminar wherein, a question came up. A fellow asked, “Who can be the best role model of a child?” The organizers were pretty amazed and therefore, they turned towards the audience for the answer.

When everyone was expressing their views, there came up an amazing answer by a senior psychologist sitting amongst us. According to him, the parents could be the real role models only and only if they share such a bond with their child that their child shares each and everything with them.

Almost everyone agreed with this viewpoint.

Well! Herein, I wish to discuss about the art of parenting. No doubts, parents are the teachers of a child as they help the child to develop the values essential for life. Parents are the only ones who help their children survive in the world by providing moral values, physical and emotional support, good education, good health, monetary benefits and other necessities as well as luxuries. All these acts are a symbol of affection and hence, parents are selfless. However, when the children come across their teenage, it is very unfortunate to note that children tend to avoid their parents as the youngsters believe that their parents are after their lives spying upon them. As a result, the teenagers lose their confidence and can be driven towards drugs and other hazardous situations.

I am aware that parents are not after the lives of their children and they can never think wrong about them. However, scientifically adolescence is an age wherein lot many hormonal changes occur and as a result, it is even difficult for human body to maintain a balance.

Therefore, I herein, wish to share some parenting tips which would help the parents to develop such a bond with their children that children can share each and everything with them:-

  1. Firstly, the parents should try abridging the so-called generation gap. The generation gap is not so evident because even the parents have gone through the same phase and their kids will also face the phase of adults in the coming years. This can be done by talking to the kids and discussing various aspects of life. The different phases of life should be discussed with the kids and kids should be counseled about the pros and cons of their activities in a constructive way. For instance, when the child demands the cellphone and parents are willing to give their kid one, the parents must tell about the use, misuse and abuse of the same but not in a preaching style rather as a interactive session in the convenient leisure time.
  2. Since, the very beginning the parents should give their quality-time to their kids. Efforts could be made by asking about their day at school, their bonding with friends, and so on. Apart from his, parents can lay with their kids and spend the leisure time together. This not only builds up the bond between a parent and kid but also helps to enhance understand the behavior of their child. Thus, the change of the behavior can easily be noted. For instance, the children are driven towards the dangerous Blue Whale Challenge these days which is marked with a strange behavior accompanied by solitude and depression.
  3. Lastly, the parents should aim at developing moral values in their child so that their kid could differentiate between good and bad. Apart from this, instead of constantly punishing or demoralizing their kid in order to make him/her perform up to relevant standards, the parents should try to find out the innate talent of their child and help the kid to develop the same. In the case, the child is on the wrong path, initially the parents should try explaining the kid his/her mistake and counsel about the disadvantages and consequences of their activity. However, in the case, things do not get sorted; the parents should arrive upon the decision of stern treatment at the end. However, in most of the cases, kids tend to understand their parents’ views in the case; the views are explained in a calmed situation.

I feel it is very difficult to tackle the teenagers because of their developing mindset and their hormonal changes due to which they tend to believe that they are correct at all times however, a calm attitude from the side of adults would help them overcome the most difficult phase of their lives. Yes, adolescence is the most difficult phase of life because the children are prone to different kinds of challenges of life which can either make or mar their future.

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I know that parenting is not an easy task and it becomes very important that how you talk to your children and you should also be fully aware of the facts and knowledge which they are learning while growing. So it is our job to build their personality which will be beneficial for their whole life.

Sometimes we say those things which we do not really mean so we should always make sure that nothing wrong is said in front of them because they remember everything in a long run and few things which impact their innocent minds will stay with them for whole life.

Never say you are bad boy or girl

Never show any negative thoughts in front of them as we do not know that how they feel about it and it may kill their self- esteem. Kids are innocent and they do not know how to differentiate between good and bad and if we say that they are bad they may not say anything but deeply feel about it. Try to tell them that they are good and make them happy by nurturing them with positive thoughts.

If possible try to explain them which actions are considered bad or good instead of telling them that they are bad. Always teach them what is good or what is bad and make them have positive in life to build great personality.

Do not say No straightly

When you straightly say No it is too harsh for them as there are chances that they will not understand for the first time instead tell them why it is not right and build confidence in them so that they can have faith in parents. Do not ever shout on them and always try to talk softly like if you do not want to them to play inside the house never directly say no to them instead tell them to play with his or her friends outside of house in park because if you will keep saying No to them it will be negative.

Please do not tell them not to talk to you

Do not create communication gap between you and your kid because in future he or she will refrain to share thoughts with you always have time to listen to them and never tell them not to talk to you. Always try to convince them with your words and explain them to what they are supposed to do and why it is important.

Do not compare them with other kids

Always remember that you never ask them to be like other kids especially like their sister or brother because it might make them jealous and they also might feel neglected or left out.

Do not ask them to leave you alone

Just remember that you mean a lot to your kids and maybe even everything and there are situations when you want to be alone and ask them to leave you alone but this will hurt them and he or she might become anxious from this behavior of yours instead talk to them and teach patience.